What does it means to be a mother?

Oh I am a mother! I have children! So I am a mother! Hurrah! But wait a minute! Does it mean that once you give birth then you are ipso facto a mother? This is a question we need to ask at this beginning. I observed some young ladies give birth and there and there submitted the baby to “motherless” babies’ home! Is this lady a mother?

Think it through! From where I stand, there are two divisions in motherhood. First division is giving birth. The second division is actually taking care of the baby until the baby becomes independent! If one of the divisions is missing, then there is no motherhood.

But there is another type of mother! There are women who are not able to give birth! These adopt children and shower plenty of love on them and so they become mothers by default.  Also, there are universal mothers! These are mothers who put the dictum “every child is our child” to heart. They live their lives knowing full well that every child must be taken care of wherever they are found.

There are the anomalous mothers! Lesbians! They are now among us! They have adopted the baby too! But are they mothers? They are NOT! Definitely! They are not because they tread the path of “unnaturalness”. So any child they adopt will grow up truncated in some sense. That child will have an awkward view of nature since her daddy is a woman and her mummy is also a woman! So the child becomes another type of child new in the natural course of things. What an anomaly! But some societies, with glee, have allowed this and so, that is their problem!

Motherhood requires bringing up non truncated children. Natural children!

Motherhood is a vocation! You work your hearts out and there is no real pay! There is no rest period and no respite. Once you are in it, you are in it for life!

It is VERY tasking and challenging. But today’s world tries to avoid challenges as if suffering is evil to be avoided at all cost! That is the grand deceit!

So in order to avoid the second division of motherhood, some mothers arrogate some rights to strangers or maids to pursue other type of affairs or to pursue fleeting fancies. I know a woman who lives in the UK while her little girl live in a boarding house at the age o 10months! Eventually, she will claim to be a mother!

Mother! Mother!! Mother!!!  That is the key word.

But forget the world; forget the deceit and the irresponsibility and the truncated children. There is true joy in motherhood.  True joy to love, care and suffer! Yes! Suffer! In Suffering there is love for the husband, the children and the society!

Let us journey to suffer! To LOVE! To be Joyful! To be Mothers!

By Franca