You cannot keep your man by going naked.....

 Going naked in the street does not keep a man. Its only God that can keep a man, so make God the center of your home.

Sweet home is sweet but the one sweet home is the sweetest 💗.

Francisca Igwilo #prettyfran Mary #

START ON TIME!

 The reason why so many people fail in achieving their dream homes is as a result of their failure to start on time.

As newly married couples, its always good and adviceable to set your goals/dreams, visualize how you want it to be, take the proper steps towards achieving it and most importantly start on time.  

It has been truly said that when you fail to plan, you plan to fail and for one to plan also requires that one should take into consideration the appropriate time" to achieve the set goal/s. 

As a writer rightly said "that if you want to be successful in life, do not stay in bed more than the usual waking up time. This shows that time is important in everything. 

Yes, as a married couple set your goals on time, always start whatever you want to achieve in your marriage immediately you get married. It is always good to start every set goals immediately after marriage when the love is still hot and fresh; when the spirit is still high 😁when there are no distractions from children etc. By so doing it becomes a family tradition which you can not do without in the future. 

Some tips:

1. Make God the center of your home; make it a family tradition to say your morning and night prayers with your spouse. Have a corner in your home where you pray. You can call it an alter.

2. Eat together with your spouse. Even if your line of work may be a barrier, atleast try and eat one meal together with your spouse each day.

3. Try and communicate always. Communication helps in dealing with so many things that may turn out to be a problem in the future. Through communication you will be able to say things that are appealing to you and the ones that are not. It helps to pour out one's heart to his/her spouse. Always tell each other how you spent your day. Lack of communication can bring about misunderstanding and unnecessary misinterpretations. So establish a good communication habit in your home.

4. Bath together. It makes you feel more attracted to each other,simple acts like scrubbing each other's back adds flavor to your love.

5. Be open to each other. Always pay attention to each other. Do not judge and do not accuse your spouse for anything he/she tells you in confidence this can lead to being secretive in marriage.

6. Do not mock those who are facing challenges in marriage rather pray for them and learn from their mistakes.

7. Do not compare your spouse to someone else. You can desire your marriage to be like someone's who's appealing to you by working towards it and making yourself a better partner. The change or that your ideal marriage should begin with you.

8. Be ready to accept any cross that God deems fit to send you. Remember, no cross ⛑️, no crown 👑.

9. Be truthful to each other no matter how ugly it may sound and be ready to accept anything your spouse tells you in good fate; this is a sign of maturity. Don't try to be his/her judge and don't use it against him/her in the future rather give advice politely and with love if there's a need for it.

10. Do not expose each other's weaknesses. Make effort to overcome your weakness/es and help each other in achieving this. Be ready to take corrections given to you by your partner and put aside your ego.

All these and many more are achievable if you start on time. There are no better time to introduce all these than immediately after  marriage.

A stitch in time saves nine!

*Sweet home is sweet but "the one sweet home" is the sweetest*  😉

THE SEVEN REASONS WHY YOU SHOULD NOT CHEAT ON YOUR SPOUSE:

THE SEVEN REASONS WHY YOU SHOULD NOT CHEAT ON YOUR SPOUSE;

 -It makes you a liar.

  -It makes you a wicked person for cheating on your only love,spouse,the father /mother of your           precious children.

   -It makes you unhappy  (if you have a conscience).

  -   It makes you feel unsafe (you can never have peace of mind).

    - It is an insult to your spouse; that what is meant for only his/her eyes to be seen and cherished is          being  exposed to a demonic eye.

     -It is an insult to your children for exposing that precious and secret gate through which they entered into this world to mere dogs

   -YOU will die young and be damned.

 

Do you love yourself?   Be sincere to yourself and desist from this act that makes you feel unsafe,and can lead you to an early grave. So keep yourself alive and safe.

Do you love your spouse ?  protect his/her pride and source of pleasures and guard it jealously.

Do you love your children ?  protect their ego. Make them proud by not exposing the instrument of their being/the gate through which they entered into this world.

Franca Igwilo.

 

WHAT WOMEN MUST KNOW!......

What women must know: A must read

for every woman.

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                                           Franca Igwilo.
                                     
                                             
                                       

PRETTY AMARA KANU NWANKWO'S WIFE SHARES HER MARRIAGE EXPERIENCES.

Super Eagles’ Nwankwo Kanu’s wife, Amara talks about marriage, motherhood and her other interests in a new interview with Punch Spice, read below;

You got married to one of Nigeria’s star players at 18. How were you able to keep the family and home together at the time?
Marriage is a growth process and I learn on a daily basis. I got married as a teenager. I was young. I think I jumped into the deep end and I simply went with it. It takes a lot of determination to keep things going because irrespective of your age, marriage throws a lot of curves at you. The main thing is being able to bounce back after being hit with a surprise or what you do not expect.
Did you harbour any doubts about your marriage?
I wasn’t scared; I felt it like it was the best thing that could have happened to me. I was in love, so there was no time for a negative feeling like fear to come up. I think the love I had and still have for my husband was all I needed to feel comfortable and good.
How did you adjust to being married to a popular personality?

When I was getting married, I was not ready to be thrust into the limelight. I didn’t even know what I was getting into. I wasn’t a football fan and I knew nothing about the Premiership. I didn’t know I was getting married into that level of limelight as I was young, vibrant and in love. I am now a football fan.
Have you lost your privacy?
If you notice, this interview is one of the very few I have granted in recent times. I try to keep my sanity, so that I can protect my family. I had to make a personal decision to stay private for a very long time in order to build what I have built for myself and my children. I understood this from a very young age.
Would you want your daughter to emulate by getting married at a young age?
Having gone through it myself, I wouldn’t say I would like her to do the same. I would like her to experience life slightly a bit more than I did. But it all depends on the circumstances and the persons involved. I had support from my mum, dad and siblings. In hindsight, I can say that they actually did a good job. In June, we would celebrate the 12th anniversary of our wedding.

How did you handle criticism at that time?

I ignored critics and paid no attention to what people said. I overlooked Facebook and I only signed on to the platform in July 2011. That was shortly after I earned a degree in Architecture.

If you could do anything differently in terms of marriage and certain decisions you have made over the years, what would it be?
I don’t think I would want to do it differently. I think getting married early is my competitive advantage.I learnt real life and management skills in marriage. Even though I’m currently studying for an MBA, it can’t beat the real life experiences. I won’t change anything because it all worked for me.
While he still played active football, how did you deal with the risks associated with his job?
When I began to understand what it meant to lose a game, I had to learn to cheer him up. I also had to learn really fast that every game had a consequence, a price and a goal at the end of the day.

How would you describe motherhood?
Motherhood is the best thing that has ever happened to me. In terms of motherhood, women empowerment and business sense, Beyonce inspires me. My children will always be my priority and I give God the most gratitude for blessing me with children. If I invest my time in them, they will give me more value at the end of the day.

How would you describe your husband?

He is a kind man and he has a big heart. He is also very sensitive and intelligent. He shows me compassion through his actions and he doesn’t say too much.

SEX EDUCATION,A must in every home.

                                

SEX EDUCATION:
This is a very delicate subject matter in every families around the world. Many foolishly allow schools to teach this delicate subject to children. This a grevious mistake which is repeated daily in the name of being trendy. Please protest at your child's school and make them stop the folly. You as a parent is the only person to teach your child about this secret.

Sex education is the formal introduction/education given to a teenager/s or a child approaching puberty stage about sex.

Most parents shy away this teaching in their homes, maybe for some reasons,mostly a wrong impression or interpretation of this subject matter.
Most of the time it could be as a result of their religious beliefs and ideologies.
But what ever be the case, the fact remains that a growing child needs proper education on sex and issues that emanates from it both the negative and positive issues.

An extremely important matter in the growing love life of a child is the proper attitude towards sex.
Majority will grow up,choose a mate and have a fulfilled marriage but this depends on a sensible sex education in home.
On the other hand, growing up in homes where there are condemnation, disgusting or even embarrassing looks when the child asks the normal  questions about sex ,sexual organs in the body and life's beginnings, as if it were something terribly unclean and sinful tends to make it a personality problem. Curiosity becomes the outcome and the child will seek information elsewhere.

A child however needs to feel secure. Without security he is cheated, and a cheated child is a future delinquent. Parents who really love one another and avoid harshness naturally provides the best background for the child's security.
A nagging and domineering mother will stunt the growth of a child's life while the proud, arrogant and Caeser-like father who rules his home with dictatorial edicts will set a pattern for his child's later love life. That's why people often become like those whom they live and associate with.

Certain misinterpretation about the names of the sexual organs should be avoided. A male child once tried to inquire about what a penis is. The parents instead of telling him the truth told the poor child that it is simply an umbrella. There came a visitor in their house on a rainy day who tried to enter their house with his water-drizzling umbrella, the poor boy screamed at him saying "keep your penis outside"! You can imagine the embarrassing looks on the faces of both the parents of the boy and the visitor.
Here, such parent is expected to tell the boy the truth and advice him to be discrete about using the name.

Parents should bear in mind the importance of sex education in the lives of their teenagers and not allow them to go searching for it elsewhere or even practicalise it to the detriment of themselves.
They should device a careful and effective way of impacting this knowledge because of the nature of it's sensitivity.
When treated wrongly can damage the love life of the child. But when treated well can be a lifetime testimony.

Franca Igwilo.

WHAT VIRGINS SHOULD KNOW. An advice for virgins.

WHAT VIRGINS SHOULD KNOW:
Virginity is the state of being without a canal knowledge of the opposite sex. Or simply put, one who has not been defiled sexually.
Virgins in the sight of God are pure and remains pure even after their marriages have been consummated on the wedding night.
We have seen so many virgins amongst the saints like: The Blessed Virgin Mary the mother of God the son (Jesus Christ), St.Philomena, st.Perpetual and Felicitas, St.Rose of Lima. To mention but a few.
However, there are still so many virgins living amongst us inspite of the height of sexual immorality in the world today.Though they may be in the minority.
According to some Catholic writers,virgins are so much endowed by God with many privileges after death and are identified with a cord around their waists which signifies purity.
Virginity is very necessary and should be encouraged among the one younger generations in the sence that it pleases God and also the best gift one can give to a spouse on the wedding night.

All virgins should bear this in mind when embarking on the marriage journey: Firstly,The behavioural aspect of an individual.A man who is a beast remains a beast despite your virginity. He may appreciate that fact and as a matter of fact you have gained such a level of trust from him but he will still exhibit his beastly nature maybe in the future except by the grace of God through prayers and good works.

Secondly, as a woman you don't expect your man to dance to your tune simply because he deflowered you. No! But he may have done that initially when the marriage was still very young and love was at it's peak but as time goes on his true character will begin to unravel. Some men and women may just decide to be themselves but because the other partner was so blinded by love or just being eager to marry with the intention of "when we get to that bridge we will know how to cross it" and it becomes a problem in later days.

Thirdly, Some men/women does not or will not condone certain bad behaviour of a partner simply because of his/her virginity.
Infact most of the troubled marriages i have worked on was as a result of this.
A woman once exclaimed "yes,i know I'm not perfect but he should just bear it, after all i reserved my body for him so he should remain thankful to me rather than complaining about my little misbehavior." No doubt, you did well! But you need to change certain rude behaviors. Obviously the husband had been complaining about her bad attitudes but she chose to remain that way because of some stupid impression of being a virgin.
Finally, on the issue of sexual intercourse, certain impressions like seing a partner who always demand for sex as being a"dog",or a whore"should be discoursged. The fact that a partner always demand for sex does not make him/her sinful. It is simply an expression of love and the level of attractiveness to the other partner.
Also when the non-virgin partner demands certain position or "style" from the partner should not get an embarrassing look or expression from the virgin partner.

Virgins should try and make their marriage work by removing all sentiments about being virgin.
Being a virgin is a very good thing and should be encouraged but when insensitivity, overemphasis and childishness are applied becomes dangerous in marriage.
Some group believes that" virgins make the worst marriages" though i disagree with such school of thought because its a thing of the mind. It depends on how you are able to manage your emotions.
The non-virgin spouses should on their part appreciate their virgin spouses and apply tactics when correcting some unruly behaviors of their partner.

Franca Igwilo.

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