A TRUE LIFE STORY OF A WOMAN BROKEN BY HER HUSBAND.

                 

         

THE TESTIMONY OF CASSANDRA!                                                                                  
A true life story of a woman broken by her husband.

Life, oh life!What a wicked life? Casandra, a  jaw-dropping beauty.Her beauty is indescribable! If i try to describe her, i may sound poetic.Her beauty simply put can best be described as perfect!
A mother of four lovely kids, married to a man by name Richard. "My Richie"as fondly called by her met her at a friend's Thanksgiving dinner in a lost gaze with his mouth agaped.Their love was indeed a love at first sight. They started a courtship which lasted for eight months and decided to get married because she was having too many suitors.

The first two years of their marriage was exceptionally fun coupled with the arrival of their first son.
The problems started setting in when they travelled to Richie's village. He started seeing her as the devil and not being accommodating.Her only offence was that his siblings should knock before entering their matrimonial room.
One of the husband's sisters once opened their window curtain from the outside to speak to Richie it was indeed in the middle of their normal bedroom duty as husband and wife. Casandra felt so bad but the husband did not see that as an offence.Where will she start from? Is it the trooping in and out of their room carelessly? Is it going to her pot to take food not minding if their brother has eating or not?
One of the brothers had seen her in her nakedness right inside her room.Instead of him to apply simple courtesy when she was mad at him, his response was"Is there anything in your body that i have not seen in other women?"or is your own different"?  Can you imagine that?
She complained again to her husband who shifted the blame on her and told her that it's obvious that she doesn't like his family because if she does she will simply accept them the way they are.

After the village saga, they continued to visit them at the city, causing more problems for them. Each time they are around they must cause one problem that will make her and her hubby to fight.
This went on until after three kids.They were seeing her as an obstacle, that they no longer collect big money from their brother.The worst among them told her that they must send her away either dead or alive. She thought it was an empty threat the way he does.

Alas, it finally happened! They framed her up with an unknown guy by drugging her and took pictures of her with this unknown guy right inside her matrimonial bed.
The husband after seeing the pictures beat her up and sent her away.
Unknown to everyone she was three weeks pregnant for her husband. When she noticed she was pregnant she came to tell the husband who denied her and asked her to go and meet her numerous boyfriends.
She left the house broken and devastated.
As if that is not enough Richie sent their three children abroad to the UK to go and be with their eldest brother in other to deny her access to her children.
Presently Richie has remarried while Casandra remains broken.

 Franca Igwilo.

QUESTIONS FOR MEN ASPIRING TO MARRY AND THE ALREADY MARRIED.

                        AM I READY TO BE A RESPONSIBLE  HUSBAND AND FATHER?

 
 A question for men who are aspiring to enter  into marriage bond and those already married. Marriage is a serious business that is meant for people who are ready to sacrifice so many things in their lives. It is also a comitment,once you are in it no going back. It should not be seen as mere friendship that you can easily enter into and jumps out as you please rather it should be taken more seriously because it is a union of a man and woman uniting together as one body and one spirit. So it requires both spiritual and mental readiness.
These are some questions for men who wish to enter into this marriage commitment:
_Am I striving to become the manly type of husband/father that down in my heart i know i can and should be?
-Would i be willing to have my conversations,stories and jokes recorded?
-Am i really trying to control my temper and language because i must be held accountable by God?
-When speaking,do i charitably build people up or critically tear them down?
-Can i be proud of my record regarding sincerity towards my wife?
-Will i always be modest in my home, out in the yard, at the beach and at the golf course?
-Will i be exemplary to my family?
-Will i be shirking in my God-given responsibility of being the head of the family by making my wife bear all the obligations?
-Will i treat my wife as a true partner and confide in her as to my salary,insurance, business deals and plans for the future?
-Will my wife be just a maid, spending much of her time hanging my clothes, putting away my shoes, hats and ties?
-Will i be considerate of my wife concerning her privileges of married life or will i selfishly seek pleasures for myself without any thought of her feelings and conditions?
-Will i accept the children that God will give us through her not minding their sexes?
   These are the questions men who wants to enter into marriage or those who are already into marriage should be able to answer so as to achieve the one sweet home!

By:Franca Igwilo.

ONE OF THE MAJOR REASONS WHY MARRIAGES BREAK UP!.

         

       
AND THE TWO BECOMES ONE!
One of the major reasons why marriages break up!

After all said and done,it's now the couple living in their world. Friends will come and go, both good ones and bad ones. It is now time for the couple to choose who will be their friend and who will not. Where they will go and where they will not.
In some cases families of both parties will like to intrude either to take part in decision making or to be part of them or  just to be poke nosing into their affairs.
 Couples who wish to achieve a sweet home or better still that one sweet home should beware of families of both sides to avoid creating problems for themselves.
I've seen cases where marriages were broken beyond repair as a result of this.
The mother of the man in question left her home, came and stayed with the family making things difficult for them. The son will always try to please her and in the process of trying to please her displeases his wife. This kept on going on and on until the wife couldn't contain it anymore and so alerted her own mother who also came and decided to spend time with them too in other to save her daughter. Her presence in the house caused more havoc for the two became cat and dog, such a disaster! You can just figure out what they turned the house into.
Finally the marriage broke up. There are so many marriages out there that are witnessing such because they allowed family member/s to be fully part of them.
While in some cases the man seeks the advice/consent of the mother before taking any decision because the wife's opinion and ideas does not matter. At a point the wife felt being looked down on and quits the marriage.
You can see such cases in a family where the man is "mum's boy".
 This on the other hand does not mean that the families of both parties should become their enemies or should not visit, no, but caution should be applied.
They have to use their discretion when it comes to their family members.
Couples and their different family members should always bear this portion of the Bible in mind"A man/woman should abandon his/her family and goes to the husband/wife and the two becomes one body and one spirit." "What God has joined together let no man put asunder".Couples who wish to achieve that one sweet home should consider all these for their dream to come through.

By:Franca Igwilo.

NOW THAT WE HAVE KNOWN EACH OTHER.

NOW THAT WE HAVE KNOWN EACH OTHER.
After clearing all the doubts and fears it is now clear that no stone was left unturned.
Old things have passed away! It is now  a new wine in a new jar,you are now about to enter a new phase in life. In this phase,marriage could take place in the process.

WHAT ARE YOUR EXPECTATIONS?
Everyone in this life must have expectations in whatever you are doing. It is like setting up a goal which you must achieve in other to be fulfilled. In this case, this intending couple must have expectations from each other by which a goal should be set which must be achieved in the marriage.In other to achieve this goal/s,it requires a team work, both partners must contribute immensely to make it work because you are in it together. Pride must be put aside, gender issues and your positions in the society must equally be put aside.
Marriage requires a lot of team work so in that case you must put all your efforts in it so as to achieve that your dream home. Men mostly are too busy working in other to make both ends meet and as such they spend much time in their work places depending on the nature of your work/business but that little time you will be at home let it be a wonderful one such that whenever you are away the family will miss all those wonderful times and sweet things you do.
These days we have a lot of working parents, that is, man and wife are working. Yes because of the poor economy! But whatever work you are doing, you must make out time to be together, have fun, do the chores and all those things you do together that keep you going as the one sweet family.Consider your family first in everything, in other words your family should be your top priority.
In marriage, avoid the use of"My own",Your own",such language/s should be avoided at all cost. It is better to always use"Our own" so as to give each other that sence of belonging.To be continued......

By: Franca Igwilo.

The firststep to achieving a sweet home.

Tell it all:When entering into a serious relationship that can lead to marriage one has to consider this first step.Initially the two people involved are like strangers, though in some cases they may had known each other from childhood yet there are some things that may had happened to both either in their past relationships or in their lives generally. Whether those things are good or bad they need to make them known to each other. They must tell it all to each other without reservation. It is very important that whoever you are intending to spend the rest of your life whom you also want to achieve your dream of that sweet home knows you inside out. You must let your partner hear the truth about you from the horse's mouth instead of hearing it from others.
This has broken so many marriages/intending marriages, why because they want to cover up in other not to loose the"Mr./Mrs.right".Alas at the end of the day when the truth must have come to light a serious damage will arise. Some end up after two or three kids.
Why not let the cat out when it will cause little or no damage? Why wait for him/her to hear it elsewhere? Are you afraid of loosing him or her when you still have better chances of catching  another fish even a better/mature one?
Look! If both of you are not meant for each other you are not meant for each other. QED
A guy/babe that dumped an intending marriage partner simply because of a simple truth is obviously not man/woman enough. He/she needs to grow up.Do you prefer lying in other to save an intending  marriage that will definitely break up along the line?A marriage that is based on lies can never last. Infact,simply put, A MARRIAGE THAT WAS BUILT ON LIES NEVER EXISTED! So this is why you should tell it all in other to have a peace of mind and achieve that dream home."The one sweet home".
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What does it means to be a mother?

Oh I am a mother! I have children! So I am a mother! Hurrah! But wait a minute! Does it mean that once you give birth then you are ipso facto a mother? This is a question we need to ask at this beginning. I observed some young ladies give birth and there and there submitted the baby to “motherless” babies’ home! Is this lady a mother?

Think it through! From where I stand, there are two divisions in motherhood. First division is giving birth. The second division is actually taking care of the baby until the baby becomes independent! If one of the divisions is missing, then there is no motherhood.

But there is another type of mother! There are women who are not able to give birth! These adopt children and shower plenty of love on them and so they become mothers by default.  Also, there are universal mothers! These are mothers who put the dictum “every child is our child” to heart. They live their lives knowing full well that every child must be taken care of wherever they are found.

There are the anomalous mothers! Lesbians! They are now among us! They have adopted the baby too! But are they mothers? They are NOT! Definitely! They are not because they tread the path of “unnaturalness”. So any child they adopt will grow up truncated in some sense. That child will have an awkward view of nature since her daddy is a woman and her mummy is also a woman! So the child becomes another type of child new in the natural course of things. What an anomaly! But some societies, with glee, have allowed this and so, that is their problem!

Motherhood requires bringing up non truncated children. Natural children!

Motherhood is a vocation! You work your hearts out and there is no real pay! There is no rest period and no respite. Once you are in it, you are in it for life!

It is VERY tasking and challenging. But today’s world tries to avoid challenges as if suffering is evil to be avoided at all cost! That is the grand deceit!

So in order to avoid the second division of motherhood, some mothers arrogate some rights to strangers or maids to pursue other type of affairs or to pursue fleeting fancies. I know a woman who lives in the UK while her little girl live in a boarding house at the age o 10months! Eventually, she will claim to be a mother!

Mother! Mother!! Mother!!!  That is the key word.

But forget the world; forget the deceit and the irresponsibility and the truncated children. There is true joy in motherhood.  True joy to love, care and suffer! Yes! Suffer! In Suffering there is love for the husband, the children and the society!

Let us journey to suffer! To LOVE! To be Joyful! To be Mothers!

By Franca