WAYS OF ACHIEVING INTIMACY IN MARRIAGE.

INTIMACY IN MARRIAGE:
There are so many ways of achieving intimacy in marriage.
These are the major ways of achieving it.
By Communication: it brings about intimacy in marriage and this includes sharing ideas and interests, your experiences and how you spent the day in your various places of work, how you feel/felt at a particular time or even how hectic your day was. It can also be ordinary jisting.
Couples that are in the habit of jisting tends to be very close to each other and as such become best of friends. They won't be having issues and if at all they do they quickly resolve it because nobody wants to miss the jist/joke of the day.

Praying together: This is very necessary and most efficacious way of achieving intimacy in marriage. Considering the fact that the caliph that prays together stays together and by staying together makes the couple to become fond of each other.
The prayer must not be too long, it could be a short simple one said with one mind and in agreement.
Notably, a prayer said with one mind especially by a couple can pull down a mountain that a group of prayer warriors could not pull down.
More importantly, a couple when praying should maintain body contacts,by so doing it will make them to start thinking alike.That's why you see in some couples the man may be going home and decides to get a gift for the wife and the wife on the other hand had thought of acquiring such but because of one thing or the other decided not to announce it.This is a clear case of body contacts. It makes the couple to always think the same direction.

Regular intercourse: In sexual intercourse the two people involved are giving themselves to each other. They are being united both body and soul. Clearly, people do not understand that there is a mystery  beyond human understanding that is behind intercourse. That is the best gift man and wife gives to each other. It is the gift of one's self and also a covenant that is being renewed each time they have intercourse.
Take for instance at the last supper when Christ gave his apostles his body and blood to eat and drink and urged them to always do it in his memory, its a way of uniting with them, a covenant.
Couples are also adviced to discuss sex after the action or at their leisure.This can be done jokingly for it is through jokes that they may be able to express their feelings about sex without being shy. It could be about how this person screamed or how the other person moaned in pleasure or even what each of them said during the action. You just laugh about it all. It adds flavour to sex. It gives them the opportunity to express how they love it or how they want it.

Bathing together: This gives the couples room to admire each other at the bath. Simple acts like scrubbing of backs enliving the couple and release positive energy that is good for the overall happiness in the home.

Eating together: This is very necessary to achieve intimacy. In this case feeding each other while at table is ideal. This will make each of them feel loved. A woman once asked "how can i do that in the presence of my children?" Yes you can! Infact it's even more adviceable to do that in their presence because you are not only teaching them how to love you are also making them to feel safe and assured that mom and Dad are in love and therefore cannot fight.Some of them Will sound like my three year old daughter that will always ask me"mom are you a baby, or daddy are you a baby that you always feed each other"?Funny! Isn't that? I will simply reply"yes i am daddy's baby"or yes daddy is my first baby",and we will all laugh.


SLEEPING TOGETHER: This is very important. It does same as body contact.
Couples should not have  separate rooms no matter how big the house may be.
Couples that have separate rooms tends to have prolonged quarrels. Women are fond of leaving the room whenever there is a little misunderstanding or in some cases asks the man to use the couch.

They are giving room for the devil. No matter the weight of the quarrel couples should stick  together in one room. By so doing you will find out that none of them can sleep without talking to each other or even try to hold each other to sleep.
Women of my kind will purposely drop either a hand or leg so hard on the husband pretending to be under the influence of a good sleep and nightmares. So fuuny!
Sweet home is sweet but the one sweet home is the sweetest!.

Franca Igwilo.