A PERSONAL CHECK-UP FOR COUPLES.

HOW AM I DOING?
A personal check-up for couples!

It seems very easy to notice the faults of other people.As a person you may think you knew what is wrong with your spouse but finds it difficult to turn the camera on yourself and ask:"What is wrong with me? How am I doing?"
As  individuals we are noted for having regular physical check-ups of our eyes, ears and teeth. We don't hesitate to have a chest x-ray. Most of us are concerned about our bodies but sometimes neglect our behavior/character especially towards our spouses.
We are willing to plunge into other people's weaknesses but self analysis and soul searching are tough.
Let's not probe too deeply but you might want to ask yourself: How am I doing as a wife or as a husband?
Have you ever asked yourself :Do i really love him/her? If yes, why should i bear grudges for so long? Why should i hold on to a simple wrong done to me for so long?Why can't i forgive him or her at once or simply overlook certain wrongs.
Many men are thoughtless but some women allow petty things to upset them.
I've seen some cases where a husband sits on one side of the church and his wife on the other side. Both of them pray their hearts out for peace in the world, but they have not spoken to each other for over a week.
See if you are the cause or have contributed to all these problems either by nagging, neglecting or simply not accepting your fault.
Is Christ the center of my life and my home? As a wife do i still agree with God that Dad is the head of the home or do i try to rub shoulders with him? Do i often recall that my marriage lasts"until death do us part?"or do i intend to quit when the going gets tough?
As a wife have i tried to be a source of encouragement and inspiration to my husband or do i see his failures as an opportunity to critisize or mock him?
When it comes to personal cleanliness, have i tried to be neat in my appearance when my husband comes home from work Or do i prefer to always tie a wrapper on my chest with the smell of onions and all sorts of food spices?
As a man do i try to entice my wife by wearing sweet perfumes or do i prefer always to smell like a he goat with an unshaved armpit?
Always try and dress up for each other.Make yourselves lovable because a home is a place in which to live,love and relax.

By:Franca Igwilo.